Friday, October 23, 2009

Shouting is the New Spanking

Read "For Some Parents, Shouting is the New Spanking:" http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/22/fashion/22yell.html?pagewanted=print

Answer these questions:
1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?

72 comments:

  1. 1) Yes it seems like yelling at our kids has become a part of our culture.

    2) People think its bad to spank children because they all believe it leads to aggression later on in life, and its not a part of our 'culture.'

    3) I think its better to be a parent that doesn't spank or shout, I think its better to have it to where you put a child in time out instead, after you have stated the fact that what they have done is wrong. I was grown up that way and I think that is the best way to learn lessons, because I know when I was younger I used to hate being in time out, but my step-dad put me in a bathroom, and even if I tried to leave he would put me back inside of the bathroom. He wouldn't let me leave time out until I either stopped crying for a while or he thought it was long enough for me to be able to think about what I had done.

    4) I think that many kids will listen to parents if the parents don't just have empty promises, like telling the kids that they won't get something until they clean their room, and if they throw a fit just to get what they want, and the parent gives it to them just to make them be quiet. I think its just more affective if you acually go though with a promise that you set out there toward the children, and it shows responsibility.

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  2. 1) Yes because parents do not want to spank their children.
    2)People dont think it is socially aceptable to spank their children. So they resort in other methods that end up not working.
    3) I think neither of are fun to do. If i were a parent i would spank my child i think over all that gets the point across. When you raise your voice at a child you are just scaring them not really disiplining them. So when you spank a child you are enforcing your rules and teaching them they will have a consequence.Every culture does something different. I think they enforce their rules and thats why their children listen.
    4) All cultures use different methods in disipling their child. One culture may use time out while another may use spanking.

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  3. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    i think it has because most parents, all they do now is yell
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    mostly they think the child will either hate them for it, or they think its not exceptable in front of others, or they think it wont work and taking away something of theirs is the only thing to get their attention
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    i personally cant say because im not a mom but i dont think you should shout all the time and i dont think you should hit all the time. they both come in to play given the situation
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    one culture could put the child in exhile for a week and the other could spank the child and then get on with their life

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  4. 1. I think yelling at our children has become a part of our culture, i know my parents dont yell at me as much because i dont do anything to get into trouble.
    2. the parents might think the children will hate them, but some parent might see spank as a way of straighting their kids out, thats what my parents did
    3. at times its good to yell or spank your kids if they do something wrong, but only if they do something wrong. parents shouldnt yell all the time its stressful
    4. while i think that some cultures could spank their kids when there bad or do something wrong or they could like make them write a paper on how not to behaive badly

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  5. 1) Parents yelling has most definitely become a more common behavioral strategy that resorts from spanking their children. Without a doubt, yelling has recently become a more socially acceptable alternative to giving children spankings.
    2)Parents out of guilt believe spankings are wrongful because of their feelings of 'losing control' or having 'anger outburst' due to stress developed during the day. Apparently studies have also somewhat proven that spanking children could slow their intellectual development at a young age and result in aggressive behavior later in life.
    3)Spanking and shouting constantly should both have boundaries as to what is appropriate or not. There's a time to scold and time to take action and not let a child walk all over you. Spanking should be limited from unusual cruelty or spanking too hard to the point where abuse is questionable. However, unnecessary shouting in a household, in general, or releasing stress on your children can be harmful as well.
    4)Cultures should expect obedience from children at a young age by setting guidelines and rules early. Every culture is different, but the similarity of most includes communicating with your child and giving them an understanding of what is right from wrong so they will listen.

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  6. 1. I believe that it has. I'm not sure that has been the best choice but it has happened.
    2. I suppose that people connect spanking with abuse.
    3. I think it depends on the situation and the child. If the child has done something severely wrong i think a spanking will rid them of whatever it was that they did wrong. But if it is something small i think that telling the child what they did wrong and not to do it again is an easy solution. But screaming is not ok in my opinion.
    4. Children learn at an early age what right and wrong is. If the child does something wrong they are punished. If they do something right they can but should not always be rewarded.

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  7. 1. Yes it has.
    2. Some people think its bad because you're physically harming your kids, and occasionally parents take it too far and it gets out of hand. So its put a general blanket over spanking as "child abuse."
    3. First of all, I don't believe shouting is a way to get any child to listen to you. Talking sometimes gets you farther. However, i grew up getting spanked, and as I got older it turned into explanations and restrictions. So I believe when I child is too young to understand what they really have done then you should spank them, but once they are old enough to know better then the spanking should stop.
    4. That really just depends on how you, yourself were raised, not just a culture in general. Such as in the South, most of the parents spank their children, but in the North its more yelling, and to me that just causes them to yell back when they reach that certain age. So I think its a large variety of how cultures get their kids to listen.

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  8. 1) Yes, yelling at kids has become a part of our culture.
    2) Spanking is thought to be bad because it can harm young children's intellectual development and cause them to grow up to have problems controlling their anger.
    3) I think it is better to be a parent that yells, because, yelling does not cause harm to a child's intellectual development.
    4) I think the best way to get children to listen to you is to be calm but firm with them. If you let them run all over you they will never listen to you. I think giving them a warning then putting them in the corner if they do not listen is the best way to go.

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  9. 1.yes. i believe that parents yell at their children alot more now than in previous years.
    2.because some parents take it to far
    3. a parent that spanks, but they have to know their limits.
    4 by rewarding them occasionally for good things, and punishing them for bad things.

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  10. 1.) I believe it is, ask my parents, all they do is yell. Ha, but no, it really has become a social norm to see mothers yell at their kids in Wal-mart. Whats that tell you.

    2.) This is because its considered "abuse" now. In the past decade or so, child abuse and domestic violence has become popular terms to throw out there. I'm not saying these are good things, it just comes to show one of two things, a. parents are beating their kids more often, or b. in the past kids could take a lot more.

    3.) I think its better for a paretn to spank their kids. Yelling and screaming at a child belittles them and can have long term effects on their social skills, then again spanking isnt exactly rose water.

    4.) I personally believe that if you raise your children right they will behave how you want them too, but children are not robots, they have minds of their own. One must make sure to keep that into consideration and not beat them mercilessly just because they act up every once in a while.

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  11. 1) Yes people yell at their kids more & i think that ridiculous to yell & scream at kids the way that people do...especially in public.
    2) People think it is bad to spank their children because it is considered to be abuse or whatever.
    3) I think it is better to spank kids because then they can know the difference between right and wrong. Yelling at a kid is more emotionally damaging and can seriously affect the way they act towards others.
    4) I think that parents should teach their kids the difference between right and wrong and if they have to spank them to do that then yeah i think it's fine. sometimes that is the only way to teach their kids to behave.

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  12. Answer these questions:
    1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    +Unforunately, yes.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    +They think it hurts the child; I mean it does hurt the child,( for about 5 minutes) but it also is effective.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    + Being a "spanker" parent would be much more effective; when the parent does nothing but yell and scream, children, teenagers, even adults learn to have selective hearing and just block it out.


    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    +They reward good deeds but to do not go over board, they have and set limits and do not allow the kid to boss the adult around, and be disrespectful.

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  13. 1.I think it has.

    2. I don't know, maybe they think its bad to hit thier child or something

    3.i think spanking because thats what my mom did and it works cuz i hated it so I behaved alot better. shouting at a kid could work but eventually the kid could start tuning it out or not paying attention to the yelling.

    4. I don't really know, maybe they could stop being pushovers and teach their kids some respect, seriously I see so many kids yelling at their parents these days, I know i would Never do that. thats just how I was raised

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  14. 1. it has definately become a part of our culture i know my mom yells more than she spanks my little brother
    2. they have made it out to be considered a form of abuse and they also think it could slow the child's intellectual development at a young age and result in aggressive behavior later in life. w
    3. i think it is better to be a parents that spanks b/c yelling does nothing they keep on doing wrong when all they know there going to get for punishment is being yelled at but when they do something wrong and you spank them then they relate that thing they did wrong with a spanking and a spanking is a lot more painful than being yelled at
    4. i think the cultures should reward them for doing good things and have some form of physical punishment when they do bad

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  15. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    -yes more parents seem to yell more often then they used to
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    -people think that it leads to aggressive problems later in life and the parent might feel guilty after they spank them
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    -i have a 2 year old brother and when hes doing something hes not supposed to be doin adn my mom yells at him to stop, he will for like two seconds and then will do it again but if she like pops him, he will understand that shes not playing and know then to stop for real. so i think that it can go both ways cuz if all you do is yell at them then theyre just going to tune you out and say what you want to hear so the parent will leave and stop yelling
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    -i think the kid should get rewarded for doing something good and get punished for doing something bad. but it kinda depends on the thing they did that was bad that will decide their punishment

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  16. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    Yes it has. Yelling back has became apart of teenage culture. Gotta love us :)

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    "It's abuse" It's only abuse if you leave bruises and/or do it often.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    Well my mom is a shouter, my dad is neither. I would have to say neither. I don't want my kids to be afraid of me, I want them to respect me.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    Well I'm not really sure what they do but most other cultures have very respectful children. (Unlike the US, Epic fail.) I think we should probably look into their methods.

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  17. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    yes, it has taken the place of spanking
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    it could be abuse and they think it is socially unexceptable
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    i think its better to spank your kid, bc after awhile yelling at them won't even phase them anymore or they will just yell back.
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    sum form of punishment

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  18. Answer these questions:
    1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture? Yes it has become apart of our culure but I see it as a good thing
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Its bad to spank because parents that spank are doing the very thing they try to protect their kids from , getting hurt.
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.It is better to yell at your kids because that help gt your kid to listen to you and lets them know what they did bad , its also good for the parent becuase its more healther to yell howyou feel instead of hitting , vilance never solves anything hitting your kids just makes them sared of you . Yelling at a kids is also better to becasue it can help make the kids no how they may have hurt the parenst and most kids can not satnd to be a dissopointment to the parents. When I was litttle my parents never spanked me they would yell at me and that would make me feel so guilty and bad hat i would try to make it up to them .
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect? I think when kids do something bad parents should take thing away from them and when they do good reward them it may make kids more materialist but it will teack them that they have to work hard to get what they want and if not done the right way they have less then.

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  19. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    Sadly yes.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Because they think they are "abusing the kids"

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    Spank. It shows a stronger Discipline which people are losing.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    So parents take things, some dont do anything, some yell, some use a meaner way.

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  20. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?

    i would have to say yes cause some parents just feel so bad after spanking their children

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?

    they feel as if they are abusing their child and hurting them
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.

    it is better to spank them because after a while they will be useed to you yelling at them adn it wont begin to phase them anymore.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?

    displine.!!! taking things that their child "cant live without", and punishment

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  21. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?

    Yes it definitely has. Children are immature and do not behave a lot of the time. For many parents, the only way to get kids to behave is by yelling.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?

    They think it is bad to spank because it can affect their kids in the future. It is also similar to abuse when you spank your kids and parents don't want to get in trouble for that.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.

    It is probably morally correct to yell at the kids rather than spanking. However, spanking is much more effective, in my opinion, than yelling. Spanking hurts and kids will stop what they're doing for at least a little while. When parents yell at kids they can yell back.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?

    Punishment. Parents have to have some sort of discipline whether it is spanking, yelling, or timeout. They could also have some incentive to behave well such as rewards like tv, dessert, or toys.

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  22. 1)I think it has always been a part of our culture. But i also think that it is becomeing more common these days. Parents are yelling at their kids for everything, not just something that is really bad.

    2)Of course people (parents especially) think its bad to spank because they are inflicting physical pain on kids. But,even though that explanation makes it seem crule, if pain is associated with a bad behavior, then the child will be less likely to do it again. Though that is not always the case.

    3)I think spanking is more effective, if a parent just yells at their kid for something they did wrong..yelling again and again for everything bad that is done by them. Then the negitivity and fear that is assosiated with getting yelled at will deminish, the kid will think "hey, i can [insert bad behavior], mom's only going to yell at me." with spanking, there is physical pain that is associated with the behavior, and that pain is tangible and un-fadeing. So the child would more associate the behavior with "oh crap im going to get hurt (pain)" rather than "oh no im going to make mom mad."

    4) Pain, time-out, punishment. Any negitive consiquence to a unfavorable behavior will imply that the behavior should not be repeated.

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  23. 1.) Yes it has tremndously.
    2.) Because it associates doing something wrong with pain. which makes the kids not want to do what they did again. people think its bad because it isnt always the solution.
    3.) Spankings i think have more affect on the child... if you scream at your kids they arent going ot wan tyou around or much less listen to you.. yes yelling is a part of our culture now but the affect only makes it worse on the parents..because then the kids dont want to listen.
    4.) Many cultures have a variety of things to do for punishing their kids...but time outs and yelling at them might not have the affect on the kids as it used to.

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  24. 1.Yelling at kids has definitely become a part of our culture.
    2.People think it's bad to spank because of the physical harm it does to their children.Plus, if your child does something bad in public and you spank them,people around you will look in disgust like you're abusing them horribly which is totally ridiculous.
    3.I think that a parent that spanks is going to be more affective with straigtening out their kids.If all you do is yell, kids will probably not find it as a source of stopping what they are doing.At a certain age with yelling, the kid is just going to yell back and make you angrier than before.The slight pain from a spanking is probably going to make the child stop the bad thing that they were doing.
    4.One culture could spank,another could yell, and another could put their kid in time-out. Parents just need to teach their kids between right and wrong at an early age and do appropriate punishments that will be affective in the long run.

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  25. 1.yes, definintly yelling has taking the of spanking for our generation
    2.i think these days people associate spanking with beating your child, which are totally different
    3.i think it would be good if u could be the parent that doesnt do either. but i know i couldnt stop yelling so i dont know what im gonna do!
    4.repeat it over and over again sturnly i think is the best way!

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  26. 1)It has become i beleive yelling over spankin in the white community.
    2)For some reason spankin kids is new in the white community but it is extremely frowned apon. They look at you like your out of your mind and that your abusing your children when really it is just discipline. With the black community it is less severe. You here black parents all the time in stores and restaurants talkin about how if there children do not get quite theyll take them in the bathroom and well we all know what happens.
    3)I know for me im going to spank my children, without real cosequence how are you gonna know why you shouldnt do something again? I Know me and my kids will probably have the same stubborness that i have and will need a spankin here and there just so they know. Anyone else can handle there kids there own way really. It all depends on the nature of the child.
    4)It depends on what culture your in. Some say spank kids, while others say its barbaric to do such things. In my culture its "spare the rod spoil the child" christians are in between in the bible its says "The heart of a child is excedingly wicked but the rod of correction will drive them far from it" so they beleive of course in spanking there children. It really all depends on your upringing if you were spanked you will either know it helped you later on in life or you will say it hurt you or did nothing so it all depends on the person.

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  27. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    I guess. I think its pretty much showing out more now because people don't spank their kids. but people have always yelled. and actually, alot of people don't yell. like freaking out because a child spilled milk or ripped a page out of a book is not the way to handle something like that.
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    because everyone has to be PC now. I think if you need to teach your child that something is truly wrong, like running out into the middle of the street with on coming traffic, they need to associate it with something bad. like a spanking. but just throwing spankings out liberally isn't the way to discipline your kid.
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    I dont' have an opinion. I dont' have kids. I have two little sisters that I raised that I didn't spank OR yell at. kids need to be treated with patience and understanding. they're just kids. but when you get older, say pre-teen teen age, you can handle getting yelled at because you understand right and wrong and you can function in society.
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    by actually being involved in parenting your children. no one pays attention to their kids any more. you need patience and understanding. really. thats it. people before us survived. we should be able to.

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  28. 1)yes

    2)they feel as if they are abusing their child and hurting them

    3)at times its good to yell or spank your kids if they do something wrong, but only if they do something wrong. parents shouldnt yell all the time its stressful

    4)i think the cultures should reward them for doing good things and have some form of physical punishment when they do bad

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  29. 1. yes.

    2. because some people think stanking your child is abuse and think its wrong to hit a small kid.

    3. well i have gone through both so i really dont know both work, but i guess spanking because no one want to get hit again.

    4. some have physical, some yell, and some dont do anything and there kids do what they want.

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  30. 1.)Yes people now-a-days yell at their children more than they spank then, because for some reason i do not know, spanking is now unacceptable.
    2.)Maybe they are trying to resort to the "violence is not the answer" motto which obviously does not work if their children continue to misbehave.
    3.)It is way better for parents to spank their children because they will not listen because their isn't really a true punishment, getting yelled at does absolutely nothing. If you spank your child they will leqrn not to misbehave agian because they know they will get a punishment they don't like and that hurts.
    4.)I don't really know but i would imagine they do the same with.

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  31. 1.) yes.
    2.) spanking is often associated with abuse or hurting your children. so i guesss thats why people think its bad...
    3.) i think it depends on how your kid learns better. if they learn better by getting spanked rather than shouting then spank them. and if yelling does the job then there is no need for spanking.
    4.) every culture has its own way of "yelling" and each different culture has its own different way to teach their children discipline.

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  32. 1) Yes, yelling at our kids has become a part of our culture.

    2) Some people think it's bad to spank because they think that they are only kids and they don't know any better so they shouldn't spank them.

    3) I think it's better to spank because it teaches the child a lesson of somesort and it makes them not be bad. Whereas shouting at them can really emtionally hurt them which could be worse than physically hurting them.

    4) I think cultures get children to listen by their beliefs and the way the people before them did it. If a family's ancestory spanked their kids and they learned from that and grew up around it then they will probably spank their kids. They expect their method of punishment to work and build stronger character and promote good behavior.

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  33. 1. Yelling has most definately become part of our culture.
    2. Many times people see spanking as aggressive and even abusive. They think you should "discipline" in another way.
    3. Its better to spank your kids. You can yell at your child all you want but really quickly they are going to start tuning you out; give them a spanking -they cant tune that out- and they'll more likely remember what they did wrong and not to do it again.
    4. All have methods of discipline and punishment. Spanking, sometimes yelling, taking away cell phones, etc. are all different methods. But its good to have a reward system to encourage good behavior as well, esp. for younger kids.

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  34. 1. not as much as everyone makes it out to be.
    2.) People think its bad to spank because they think it's abuse. I dont think it is abuse.
    3.) A spanking and being beatin are two diffrent things. I think being beatin though causes anger issues. I think spanking and yelling are equal in situation and can both damage someone a lot.
    4.) They set an example I guess you could say and they look up to there parents because there parents are good or "perfect" parents. I dont know how to word it sorry.

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  35. 1) Yes, i think yelling at kids has become a part of our culture but some parents still use the "old fashion" way.

    2) People think it is bad to spank children cause they are looking at it as a form of abuse and effects later on in life.

    3) i think it is better to put a child on punishment and take things away instead of spanking and shouting because shouting at them doesn't mean they are listening and spanking them always wear off within a day or so but if you take something away from them that they enjoy then they will act right so they can keep it

    4) all cultures set rules but some may chose to enforce them different and have different consequences when they are broken

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  36. yes because more parents are yelling instead of spanking.

    alot of people think that spanking is bad but I think that it is just diciplining

    Spanks because it diciplines your kids and yelling only makes them feel bad about themselves

    They use different techniques but most are effective.

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  37. 1. i think yelling at our kids has become a large part of parenting in our culture, now that spanking is a "bad thing."

    2. it's like child abuse, they think there's a better way to handle things.

    3. spanks, i think. because if you yell, you make a huge emberassing scene in public, but if you just give your child one spank or something, it can just be quick and over with. if that makes sense?

    4. i believe that when something goes wrong, listen to both sides of the story. just understand what's going on, and make any further judgement from there. if you need to yell, and if you need to spank, go for it. but don't scream at your child and beat them, that's a totally different thing.

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  38. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    i think it has because most parents, all they do now is yell spanking is "wrong"
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    People think it is bad to spank children cause they are looking at it as a form of abuse
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer. A spanking and being beatin are two diffrent things. So if they spank and talk to their kids it can be positve effects.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect? ) all cultures set rules but some may chose to enforce them differently but they all are trying to kids to behave.

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  39. 1.) i believe yelling at kids has become part of our culture since most parents are afraid of being turned in as abusive if they spank their kid.

    2.) i personally was spanked as a child and i'd say im scarred by it. i dont think its a good way to disaplin your children i think this really upsets a child like it did me.

    3.) i dont think either is really a 'good' way to disaplin your child because yelling can turn to verbal abuse and spanking to psyical abuse. i know i dont have the pacientce for a kid, i'd lose it, so! i wouldnt have them to start with i think people with short tempers should consider that before they have kids. or get cousiling.

    4.) all cultures have conciquences for their childs wrong actions. i think alot of it just has to due with how you raise your kid and their own guilt at doing something they know is wrong. i dont know how you might teach a small kid the difference. maybe if you just hit their hand or something?

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  40. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture? Yes. Seems every parents does it.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Some people see it as "hitting" your child. And i understand that it must be hard as a parents spanking your child. It does hurt them. Rules and boundries are set, and kids are expected to follow them.
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Spank. because eventually shouting will become a routien thing. Kids fear spankings more. because eventually the kid will ignore the yelling.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect? Dicipline, consequences, and rewards for good behavior.

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  41. 1.) Yes.
    2.) Some people think that because it is considered child abuse or some people thinks it just hurts the child.
    3.) Neither because if u yell at a child it will just become a routine thing and then your just yelling at each other and it wont change a thing.
    4.) They teach them to act and if they dont the thing your suppose to the they get in trouble.

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  42. 1.) Yes
    2.) Because some people look at it as a form of abuse
    3.) I think it is better to be a parent who spanks because when you spank a kid, they will remember it better and know not to do it. Whenyou yell at them they will just get used it and not listen anymore. I dont agree with taking it too far but i believe in discipline.
    4.) Its the way they raise them. You have to start young and let them know what right and wrong so they know how to act.

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  43. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    Yes, I believe so.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Because some people may look at it as hurting the child. Or child abuse.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    Nethier really, the child can become use to both of them, and they could stop working. I think you should try to punish them by time out or take things away from then when they are little so they learn.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    You have to teach them the difference between right and wrong when they are little.

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  44. 1)Yes it has, I think it's become more than just part of our "culture" and just become "expected".
    2)I think most parents fear their children will grow some sort of resentment or hate towards them if they do.
    3)I don't honestly think either one is better than the other. If you yell at your child most likely it's only going to teach them to yell back. Spanking could give them the false sense of "aggression solves everything" as well.
    4)I actually don't think it has to much to do with culture. Kids can be raised in a strict christian home where they were disciplined right and learned right from wrong but still stray from their familie's beliefs. Same goes for kids raised in abusive homes where "beating" was the form of punishment and they could turn out to be some of the most polite and loving people. I think it's based on what the child makes of their situation.

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  45. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?

    Probably.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?

    Because it's physically harming the child.
    I got spanked..

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.

    I'm not sure. You don't really need to shout all the time, and you shouldn't spank unless it's something way serious.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?

    uh. punishment and rewards?
    except that one culture, where they don't even have violence.

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  46. 1.) Yes
    2.) They feel it's not acceptable anymore. People look at them like they're abusing their children or something.
    3.) Spanks for sure. When you yell at a child they eventually learn to just ignore it and it isn't effecive anymore. Spanking is harder to ignore and, I think, it is a lot more effective in disciplining a child. It can be abused though. So you have to be wise about it when you choose to use this method.
    4.) Every culture has a different way of getting kids to listen. I think a lot tend to yell or be physical e.g. grabbing arms and pulling them. But every culture is different in how they view children and how they treat them. And also what they expect of them. Usually parents or family members will expect a child to be doing something or at a certain point at a certain time based on what they were doing and such at that point in their life.

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  47. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?

    yes most oarents only do this today atleast in public

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?

    it's beating your child and if poeple think you beat your child your not as good of a parent as you should be

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.

    depends on the situation
    if is bad sure hit the kid if its not the you can yell but try not to draw attention because that makes the purpose of not being a bad parent flip on you

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?

    i dont really know i just grew up listening to my parents yes there is times i dont listen but for the most part i just do it
    but i believe if you want kids to listen to you its not a bad idea to scary them to think something bad may happen to them in the future

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  48. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?

    Yes, I see it just about every single time I go to Wal*Mart. It's so sad!

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?

    Because physically (and probably mentally) it's damaging to a child.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.

    It depends on the situation and the child. One might prefer the spanking because it's over quickly and feels more humiliated by being yelled out. It could be the complete opposite with another child.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?

    Discipline, consequences, boundaries, and rewards for good behavior.

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  49. 1) Parents yelling at their kids is definitely part of our culture now. You see it right in the store aisle, on TV, and in movies. People will still draw attention to themselves through doing it, however it is becoming very close to being socially acceptable in most situations.

    2) Most people think it is bad to spank their children due to the possibility of child abuse allegations, or they fear it may harm the child and even lead to aggression and anger in the child's future.

    3) It is much better to be a parent who can balance both shouting and spanking. Either technique can get out of hand (pun intended) when a parent is not in control. However, a well-placed, stern comment that warns a child that what they are about to do is wrong, and a solid spank after the child still commits the action would work out best. Too much of both leads to a child getting used to the punishment and starting to ignore it, removing its effect and possibly causing resentment and anger towards the parent. However, a parent who is in control of their own personal actions and uses either technique correctly can get their children to behave appropriately.

    4) Most cultures use some form of discipline or reward to get kids to listen and do what is expected. These range from the blog topic, yelling and/or spanking, to other techniques such as time-outs, isolation, reinforcements and punishments, and repetition. No culture does it quite the same, but all have the same goal in the end.

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  50. 1) sure

    2) because if you "spank" your child in public then other parents may think that your abusive

    3) i think that if you spank you make a bigger influence on the child but you will more than likely be judged by other indeviduals

    4)different punishments

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  51. Answer these questions:
    1.) yes, parents arent physically disciplining there children they just yell.

    2.) they think that it isnt socially correct.

    3.) I personally think they only way a kid can really learn a lesson is through spanking, because if you yell as a kid myself i brush it off my shoulder, but if im physically disciplined i learn my lesson.

    4.) through teaching there kids the right thing, and through discipline. i personally dont think a child will ever learn unless he gets a spanking, because if he is about to do something and thinks "hey i might get a spanking" for this then he wont do it. thats how kids learn.

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  52. I believe that yelling at children nowadays is sadly a part of our culture. You don't see parents beating their children in public anymore all you hear is yelling on the next isle over at walmart
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    I don't think that spanking is bad. but to the people that do, it teaches them that violence is a way of achieving what you want whether it be a good or bad outcome

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? I don't agree with either because you shouldn't yell and embarass your child or make it where they can't sit down for a week. i think that deep breaths and calmly explaining what they did wrong will sufice
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect? By being firm in punishment if the action they are told to do isn't done

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  53. parents yelling are definitely play a huge role in society today

    People think its bad to spank because they think it's abuse. I dont think it is abuse.

    it's better to spank than to shout because shouting just hurts feelings and spanking gets lessons learned

    Discipline, consequences, boundaries, and rewards for good behavior.

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  54. 1. yes it hads
    2. I think because some paents get out of controll when they are spanking there child thats why people think it is bad to spank there child.
    3. In a way i think both because you can yell at your child and spank them so next time they know right from wrong.
    4. different punishment for the kids.

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  55. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    yes
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    People think its bad to spank because they think that they are abusing there children.
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    I think it's better to do both. You should yell when they are doing something like playing with an outlet and if they don't listen you could smack them but as long as your not beating them with a shovel.
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    They punish them in different ways

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  56. 1.Yelling at kids has definitely become a part of our culture.
    2.People think it's bad to spank because of the physical harm it does to their children.Plus, if your child does something bad in public and you spank them,people around you will look in disgust like you're abusing them horribly which is totally ridiculous.
    3.I think that a parent that spanks is going to be more affective with straigtening out their kids.If all you do is yell, kids will probably not find it as a source of stopping what they are doing.At a certain age with yelling, the kid is just going to yell back and make you angrier than before.The slight pain from a spanking is probably going to make the child stop the bad thing that they were doing.
    4.One culture could spank,another could yell, and another could put their kid in time-out. Parents just need to teach their kids between right and wrong at an early age and do appropriate punishments that will be affective in the long run.

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  57. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    Yes, white people especially like to nag at their kids.
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Some people see spanking as child abuse because you can't really tell how hard they're hitting I guess. Some people think that if you're "hitting" your kids in public it's probably worse at home.
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    I say spanking is better. After all these years I have learned to tune my own mother out when she's going off. Spanking gets the point across that you're not going to put up with it. However, there should be an age limit to physical discipline.
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    Being a good role model for your kids and having their best interest always at heart can help one to determine how to go about disciplining a child.

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  58. 1)yes, i've seen yelling be done way more than spanking.
    2)i think people think is bad to spank because it is less socialy acceptable than yelling, and they think its abusing their child
    3)i dont agree with neither of them, because they both harm and effect the child in a way. Spanking hurts them physicaly and mentally, and yelling hurts them emotionally. I think that explaining their actions calmly and seriously will let them know what and why they did was wrong.
    4)although they all have the same goal, cultures can spank and yell at them, isolate them, punish them, etc. to do what is expected of them.

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  59. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    yes, i do believe that yelling at our kids has become a part of our culture.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    because i think people look at it as a abusing kind of thing and also because people look at it as there just kids and there going to make mistakes.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    shouting is just going to scare the kid and make them not want to do it again. if you spank your child then thats a form a disiplan not just yelling at them.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    i think a culture gets there children to listen by what they were brought up too. so if you were spanked as a child, i think thats what you are going to do with your kids.

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  60. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture? yes because they can take things in the wrong way at sometimes
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank? because some people do not beat there kids to punish them some people do it to just hurt them
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? i would say to shout becaue i do not thing that spanking really gets you anywhere
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    culture gets it kids to listen by the way that they are brought up around diffrent things

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  61. 1. sadly yes
    2. because most people see it as child abuse
    3. i would say spank because yelling aint gonna solve anything
    4. it depends on the culture and how the kids were brung up

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  62. 1.Yes
    2.People thinks its bad to spank kids because they think its abusive.
    3.I think its better to be both because if your going to spank your kids they need to know why and if your yelling at your kids they think your just letting them get by by just yelling which isnt really telling them nothing.
    4.By explaining the situation and letting them know why your raising them up like your

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  63. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture? Yes.

    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank? They think they might hurt there kid.

    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer. Both. You don't always need to spank or shout. Give them both. That way you even it out and don't seem like a horrible parent.

    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect? spank, shout, beat, just depends on the culture.

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  64. 1.) Yes, it seems like every family yells at the children.
    2.) I think it can do alot of good but can also weaken the childs ability to cope with their bad descisions.
    3.) Shouting at your child can make them feel inferior and vunerable opposed to scared for the moment.
    4.) It is apparent that most cultures try to be reasonable but always end up using physical punishment.

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  65. Yelling at our kids has become a part of our culture
    Kids need to be spanked or they become out of hand
    The belt is always better
    Use the leather

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  66. 1.) yes, parents think spaking is wrong so when kids get out of control, they feel like yelling is there best option. most of the time it gets the job done.
    2.) I think people find spaking to be bad because of the few parents who take spaking too far and abuse their children.
    3.) i think a soft spank is better than yelling. to me yelling is too violent, spaking is just a way of showing kids that you are serious but you don't have to make there butts bleed to be affective.
    4.)Generally speaking i think if you raise a kid right and start when they are young they won't have too many behavior problems, and when they do you will be able to handle the situation without harsh repremanding.

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  67. yes i believe that yelling at are kids had become a big part of are culture, because it make the kids listen better but really its not doing anything but scaring the child.
    People think that its worst to spank your child then to yell at them because the parent us physcially touching them. I think its better to be a parent that spanks because 9 chances out of 10 the child wont make the same mistake again rather shouting at them.
    cultures gets kids to listen and do whatever thry want by giving them some type of reward.

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  68. 1.) I think for alot of people it has.
    2.) They think it is child abuse.
    3.) I would scold them sevrel times and if that didnt work I would put them in time out then, give myself time to calm down then give them a small spanking.
    4.) it depends on the culture. yelling. restrection. beating.

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  69. 1.)Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    Yes its an alternative to hitting because its socially unacceptable and has become part of our culture
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Because people think its abuse I think its discipline
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    Spanking; if a child knows you'll spank them if they do something wrong the fit themselves. Plus who wants to hurt their voices yelling all the time
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect? With Discipline

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  70. 1.yes i think it has.
    2.i think that people think it bad to spank their kids is because maybe they think the parents just do it for no reason.
    3.im not really sure which one is better
    4.i think that it depends on the culture really because were all different in many ways.

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  71. 1.) Has yelling at our kids become part of our culture?
    Not completely. I know a lot of parents that do but the people in my family still spank. To be honest, yelling does nothing.
    2.) Why do people think it is bad to spank?
    Because it teaches the child to fear and it causes pain.
    3.) Is it better to be a parent that shouts or spanks? Explain your answer.
    Spanks. It gets the point accross thurroughly.
    4.) How does any culture get its kids to listen and do what they expect?
    It depends on how they feel about discipline. Not everyone spanks.

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  72. 1) I agree that yelling has become a part of some cultures in America today, but not everyone has replaced physical punishment with verbal punishment. Many traditional parents continue to use spanking as a way to punish their children, while parents who are more liberal and modern prefer to yell at their kids.
    2)People view spanking as a negative reinforcer for their kids. They believe that if they beat their kids, then their kids will copy the violent actions that their parents take on them. Others believe that spanking is bad because they feel guilt after spanking their kids. These parents sometimes feel like they are hurting their innocent young children.
    3)I believe that it is better for a parent to spank their children. With spanking, the child can associate the negative feeling of being beaten with their bad actions. If a parent yells at their child, their is no real punishment for the child's actions. The child will recognize the fact that if they do something bad, they will only get yelled at, whereas if a parent beats their child, the child will be less likely to do bad things out of fear of a beating.
    4)In many societies, parents will teach their children discipline and responsibility. If parents do these things, then their children will be less likely to do bad things.

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